Showing posts with label Change. Show all posts
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3 Clear Steps to Radically Change Your Life for the Better Today

Collaborative leadership, networking, team building and communication skills are all considered valuable and vital to business success in the evolving workplace. Typically, when a person decides that he or she wants to learn skill sets related to these areas, they proceed to learn techniques. While technique does matter, there's much more to learning and applying skill sets than meets the eye - the physical eye, that is. Most people are still not aware of the power of the brain and its "mind's eye" to make or break their ability to influence others, break procrastination, or create a viable strategic plan.

If it were as simple as taking a class or playing team-building games, organizations would be places that engage the minds and hearts of employees and effectively cultivate personal and professional development. People would be clamoring to get to work on Monday mornings, and absenteeism and lack of team trust would be uncommon challenges. Entrepreneurs would not be working themselves to the bone and worrying about payroll if purely motivational seminars really worked.

In reality, these issues are growing concerns for small business as well as for mega corporations. What is the problem here? Not to over-simplify it, but a central issue is the ignorance that we human beings have with regard to our own brain management. We simply do not understand how we are wiring our mind in a way that keeps us living far beneath our true potential. The brain itself is not the problem; it is truly magnificent and amazing in its capacity and functionality.

The next great shift is already beginning, and it is understanding how your amazing brain can help you to take your business and life to the next level, or keep you stuck for the rest of your natural life.

As you make your plans either in business or personal life, here are three simple tips that you can begin to use while you are busy taking all those informational classes and learning new techniques. Maybe you will then be able to apply what you learn and 'just do it':

1. Shift Your Focus of Attention. Your brain interprets what you focus on as what it is supposed to get for you, or "what you see (focus on with feeling) is what you get." The problem is that most people focus on what they DON'T want. Most people focus on what is lacking, what's wrong, or think that they can't. All of these behaviors are self-limiting and defeating. If you focus on what's wrong with your team instead of seeing the strengths in others and understanding how to confidently engage their hearts, team dysfunction is likely to be a self-fulfilling prophecy. Wouldn't it behoove you to learn why you focus your attention this way and be able to change it - fast? The more you worry about not being able to connect with others, the less likely you can relax and engage their attention. Besides this, focusing on fear literally creates stress in your mind and body, which is not good! Instead, retrain your brain to focus on what you do want, even if you first have to first create it in your imagination. See it in your mind's eye first and you will begin to have insights into how to create it in the physical realm.

2. Clarify Your Vision. I see this all too often where a client or someone I know is busy doing all sorts of work without the clarity of why they are doing it. In fact, you need to make time to reflect to get a clear vision before you even begin to create a strategic plan. Otherwise, you can waste valuable time and money and even end up taking a path that was not what you really wanted in the end. To do this step you will have to slow down, stop the frantic activity, and make time for a visioning process that engages the brain physiologically. Create a compelling, emotional, clear vision in your mind's eye; feel into it. You will more than make up the lost time with the new clarity and ease with which you perform when your heart is engaged.

3. Speak Gratitude, Not Complaints. Hear me! Complaining is a major time waster and energy drainer. If you can change a situation, just go do it. Talking about it is not the solution. People have no idea how harmful this bad habit is to their health and ability to succeed in life. Science is now breaking into areas that demonstrate how like attracts like as the nuances of energy are understood. Our expectations and how we feel directly impact our perception. Negativity begets more negativity, and then people wonder why they can't seem to get ahead. On the other hand, gratitude is one of the most powerful feelings known to man. An attitude of gratitude can be attributed to the healing of fatal diseases, attracting loving relationships, and all manner of good fortune. It is vital in order to flourish in business and life. And, it just feels good.

These three things, if started today (now, don't procrastinate), can literally and radically change your life for the better - and rapidly, at that. You do want to remember to do it compassionately though. This is a journey. Literally, where you are placing your attention is creating your reality. This is basic brain science, actually; there's nothing 'woo-woo' about it. You may as well focus on what you want/desire instead of what scares you. Focus on what gives you meaning instead of what keeps you insecure and stuck.

You may as well deal with your limiting beliefs about who you think you can be, what you can do, or what you can have. If you have the courage to learn how to retrain your brain, you are more likely to actually inspire others to grow, feel great about yourself, and be willing to drop the fear of admitting that you can make mistakes. Making mistakes is just a "miss take," as in 'do it again a different way', like a movie director does on a movie set. If you only did these three things, which you can do without even understanding how your brain creates your reality, you would radically change your life for the better.

Valencia Ray, M.D. teaches business owners and corporate leaders how their amazing brain can actually hijack personal power -- not in the abstract, but in the context of integrating business and personal life. Dr. Ray, a board-certified eye surgeon and medical business owner for over 20 years before selling her practice, shares her own life changing process. By sharing her story, she helps others to expand their vision and learn that by living with purpose and confidence, it is possible to have a more integrated, healthier lifestyle - with less struggle, more inner peace and more abundance.

For more information and to contact her regarding dynamic, inspirational keynotes, trainings in collaborative leadership and team building, entrepreneurship and coaching programs, visit her website at http://www.valenciaray.com/


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Not Enough Time? Change Your Focus

Productivity needs to be defined as accomplishing goals and dreams, not simply being 'so busy'. In fact, if you keep talking about how busy and time-poor you are, you will likely waste time and energy. Why? Because talking about it is revealing that you are focused on lack of time instead of focusing on where you want to go.

Be mindful of your words, as you words reveal your thoughts. Your words speak to the quality of energy of your being. If you talk about lack of something repetitively, you are likely to manifest it into your life. This is how the brain and mind work. The primary mechanism of the creative process that ends up being your life's experience is focus of intention and attention.

These two things are slightly different. Intention is a feeling and creates the mental image, and attention is about keeping your physical eyes and your mind's eye on the target. Here's the catch, though: if you have wired a belief into the subconscious part of your mind that you don't have enough time, this powerful intention will be the dominant experience.

Most people don't even bother to set a conscious intention daily anyway. If you did, you may have a chance, but if not, you can pretty much count on 'not enough time' being your experience. You see, it's not that you are a victim. It's not that you have fewer hours in a day than other people, who seem to accomplish major life-changing goals in their lives. What it really is, is that you do not understand how weak your power of focus has become because of some of the following beliefs that you have formed over time.

Here are three simple examples:

Multi-tasking saves time and is effective (weakens attention - wastes energy, also)

Life is hard and success takes hard work (creates struggle)

Reflection and quiet time is a waste of time (actually, it revitalizes and restores the mind)

Here are some solutions to the above:

Multi-tasking takes your focus from being like a laser to being a 40 watt-bulb. It's literally not good for your brain. Take five-minute breaks each hour to breathe deeply and stretch. Check your email only at designated times, like 10 minutes before the hour and for ONLY 10 minutes. Set your intention before each task, and don't do another until finished.

Recognize that the brain is an organ that produces self-fulfilling prophecy. So if you keep thinking and speaking that life and success are hard, your brain will cause you to take actions to make this your experience - it's as simple as that. You will focus on things that are ineffective. You will miss opportunities that are right in your face. You will take three times longer to get your tasks done. You will not attract the best support systems and people into your life. In fact, you are likely to create chaos and frequent challenges. Stop this, and learn how to change your thinking and feeling patterns. Life will become magically easier. Don't underestimate the power of your feelings, mind, and brain to create your reality.

Reflection time is vital to slow down your busy brain. If you don't stop, re-fuel, and literally slow down your brain waves, you will likely damage some brain cells (this is literal). Chronic stress and overwhelm have even been associated with memory loss and Alzheimer's. It can cause everything from headaches to cancer. Time poverty is perceptual in nature. Also, if you keep talking about 'not enough time', you are likely to take on situations that are not even aligned with your values. Speaking of values, when you become a 'doing machine', typically you don't slow down enough to even realize what your true personal values really are. Why? You are too busy! Too busy staying on the hamster wheel of other people's agendas. Too busy worrying about the fear-based negative news that you have no control over.

If you change your focus, turn off the negative media, and get clear about where you really want to go in your life, you will have the insights of just the right inspired actions to take to stop doing things that are meaningless. I could go on here, but I hope you get the point. Reflection is critical and powerful to regaining control of your time, energy, and getting clear on what you should be doing to accomplish and truly be productive.

Learn how to retrain your brain! It may take some courage to stop the runaway "time train." Start by focusing on one step at a time. Start by setting an intention to finish one task at a time. Begin to talk about being in the process of creating more time. Want to be bold? Affirm that "my mind is finding more time now" throughout your day. Start feeling that you have enough time. Start by focusing on gratitude for what you have instead of what you don't have. Change your focus, and you will change your mind.

Valencia Ray, M.D. teaches business owners and corporate leaders how their amazing brain can actually hijack personal power -- not in the abstract, but in the context of integrating business and personal life. Dr. Ray, a board-certified eye surgeon and medical business owner for over 20 years before selling her practice, shares her own life changing process. By sharing her story, she helps others to expand their vision and learn that by living with purpose and confidence, it is possible to have a more integrated, healthier lifestyle - with less struggle, more inner peace and more abundance.

For more information and to contact her regarding dynamic, inspirational keynotes, trainings in collaborative leadership and team building, entrepreneurship and coaching programs, visit her website at http://www.valenciaray.com/


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How to Change Life for the Better

I don't know about you, but when I reflect back on my life and consider some of the most trying times I've been through, if often comes down to one thing: A choice that I made... a bad choice.

So how do we make decisions and choices that serve us?

It's really quite easy. So easy, in fact, that it almost seems impossibly easy.

There's a kind of automatic tendency to believe that decisions have to be difficult, especially the big decisions. It almost seems gratifying to mull things over, to think-think-think, to puzzle through, to agonize.

Have you ever been there... what's the last decision you had to make?

As gratifying as it may seem to come out the other side with this seemingly brilliant decision after racking our brains, I think we do it because making an easy decision somehow doesn't feel right.

Or is it because we've made snap decisions in the past and they haven't turned out so well. And as a result, we've decided to take our time in the next important decision so it doesn't kick us in the butt!

May I just say how many times I've done this in relationships!

Here's what I've learned. Thinking-thinking-thinking is a sign. It's often a warning sign. Life decisions don't have to be so complicated. And they also don't have to be made in a snap decision. Life decisions only require one question: "Do I feel contracted? Or do I feel expanded?"

That's why, as a member of the human race, we come fully-loaded with our own, state-of-the-art, Inner GPS System. It's our own personal, internal guide that keeps us headed in the right direction by sending nature's messages about what's up ahead. Paying attention to our Inner GPS means being able to tell when things are expanding all around us and moving us forward, or when they're contracting and holding us back.

Basically, that feeling of expansion is like a green light, telling us that it's safe to move ahead toward whatever thing or experience we're pursuing. Those are the times when we can feel safe that the step we're about to take is the right one.

On the other hand, when we feel contraction, that's like a red light telling us to stop whatever we're doing and not move forward.

This is how we begin to change life for the better, and make better choices.

I'm curious... what was the last really great choice you made?

Rémy Chaussé is the bestselling author of "Living Life As An Exclamation Point!" She's one of the leading experts in optimism, and believes, "We all have at least one true passion in life... but more than that, we have a legacy. We weren't put on this earth to struggle or just survive. We were put here to express our one unique strength, and that uniqueness IS our legacy." Rémy helps you unleash the vision within, and bring your legacy to life through workshops, seminars, and custom designed challenges. Visit http://www.remychausse.com/ for 5 free videos on how to get unstuck. And be watching for the announcement of the brand new FREE tele-seminar called "Find Your Passionate Life in 5 Easy Steps - How to create stunning new possibilities in life!" (email for the current schedule).


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